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What is this business of thinking of things in terms of how they ought to be, and what is the good in it? (I am not talking at all about the title of this post, that was only something I thought to be slightly clever.) I mean when someone doesn't know how to do something or doesn't understand something while I do, why do I feel like they ought to? Or when someone mistreats me, where do I honestly have grounds to say that they ought to know better, or even if they know how they ought to treat me ought to be able to live up to that standard?
We are all dealing with what sin has done to us. We are not the creation we ought to be. So if no one is able to live up to the standard of goodness, we should make allowances for each others failures. (My issue is that most of the time I think that I am the exception to this rule, that I am the only one who can act rightly and therefore am allowed to judge everyone else. It is wonderful when my mind is clear enough to see that I am not.) There really is no good reason why anything or anyone ought to better than it is after our Fall. To expect or demand otherwise leads to disappointment and bitterness.
Does this mean that I am suggesting we lay down and accept that things will always be this way? Certainly not! To do nothing about the way things don't measure up creates a downward spiral to more and more depravity. But at each point along the way, as we hopefully transition toward humility and true love of God and everyone else, things can be alright just as they are. Things are going to be what they are anyway, regardless of our attitude about them. If we don't demand that things be different than they are we can have more peace in life and more trust that God is actually taking care of us. We are hoping in the Future anyway, things don't have to be perfect here. Bitter things like suffering are like drinking grapefruit juice. It's good for you, which you know and therefore drink it even though you don't really like it. But eventually you might develop a taste for it.